Sex and Intimacy

There are basic guidelines that will assure a healthy, lasting, vibrant, sexual relationship with a partner. When dealing with long tern committed and positive relationships, sex and intimacy go hand in hand. One can not exist without the other and you will find that by combining the two you and your partner will experience a much more meaningful and therefore fulfilling interaction. Some people do not even know the difference between sex and intimacy. There is such a huge misunderstanding of what the two really are. The truth is the key to figuring out the secrets to happiness within a relationship, you must know ahead of time- each experience is unique to the individuals involved. However, there are key elements that if monitored, are sure to lead to a healthier partnership. After reviewing our articles, we hope you can take something home with you!

Here are some key factors that play the most important roles in keeping the love alive and healthy.

Respect- You MUST have respect for each other. Understanding - When in difficult relationships, understanding is sometimes the one thing that can save the love that exists, and when you surrender to it, you will find that its much more fulfilling to bow down in certain situations yielding a comfortable place for the two people involved to be who they are, regardless of mistakes or fault. Communication - If things get rough, talk to each other. But, while talking remember, UNDERSTANDING AND RESPECT. Try not to raise your voice. If you feel passionate and heated, take a walk, calm down and remember you are here because you love this person. Even if you are not having to deal with hard issues it is still important to talk to each other. Let your partner know how beautiful you think he is or how she makes your heart jump. Reinforce positive things that fill your life with security and comfort, if you want those things to live on. Talk. Make communication a safe place by reassuring each other that within your relationship exists a safe place to discuss ANYTHING, even if that "anything" is hard or painful. Spontaneity - Try a little spontaneity and see for yourself how well received it is. Try coming up from behind your lover while he or she is doing some ordinary house chore. For example if your lover is at the computer working or in the garage etc.. come up from behind them unexpectedly and caress them with suggestive tones. Try telling your partner that you will be busy with the kids all day, then have a prearranged babysitter come by and pick them up sending the kids away without your partner knowing. Find your partner unknowing in an open room all to yourselves and walk right up to them and start to take their clothes off. Tell your partner you have to run an errand together and take them to a hotel room. When your partner wakes up to go to work- set aside 30 minutes for sex. A great start for a demanding work day! Confidence - Show some confidence. Nothing is more attractive than someone who exudes confidence in their life in general and especially in their sex life. I'm not talking about being egotistical. Being sure of yourself allows for progress, communication, effectives, and will even change the way you and your partner feel together. You will notice with just a slight bit of confidence even in the scariest situations, you will feel empowered. No one is born with all the right touches, or moves sexually. It takes practice and you have to be confident that you can handle the situation, otherwise you'll just end up worrying about it and you will never get down to it. Jump in there, have some faith in yourself, ask questions, and get the ball moving! Space - Even in the most passionate and loving relationships everyone should allow their partner some space. Take time for yourself or arrange a day where your partner can relax on his or her own with no distractions around. Take the phone off, relax with a great book, enjoy a movie alone or go out for a walk. Time alone rejuvenates the spark when you see each other again. There is no need to be involved so much in a relationship that you forget about your individual needs and goals. Healthy relationships support and create space between two people. You must allow yourself time to develop together and individually as they make each move toward a healthy interaction easier and more desirable. You can be an individual within a relationship without depleting either. Health Exercise, eat healthy, be creative, find something you feel passionate about and explore more. do your best to stay fit so you can increase your sexual endurance and performance. You are what you eat and what you put in is what you put out, so think twice about having that fast food hamburger three times a week. It is a lot easier to stay healthy once you get a routine down. Ask your partner to do it with you. Support each other at a healthier lifestyle and grow into a healthier sexual relationship as well! Attraction - Be sure to stay up on the key elements that make you shine. I am not talking about dressing nice or filling your life up with materialistic things. I am talking about keeping your personality attractive and you tone vibrant. There is a time and a place for lulls or depression, and we all succumb to those things at some point or another. But do your best to stay positive and fun and you will notice you will attract the same in your life. Yes, it can get hard and sometimes everything seems on your back, but life is the result of your perception. We only live once, so don't take the things around you for granted and enjoy the moments you have here on this beautiful journey. Be attractive and attract the positive forces in your life. If you are constantly depressed or nervous or demanding or unsatisfied, you will no doubt end up in those exact situations within a relationship. You are as great as the people you surround yourself with. Be only the best, and you will attract the best!